Interested in exploring in the bedroom but not sure if kink or BDSM is for you?... Make it SENSUAL!
Think it can’t be HOT and also deep, meaningful, transformative and healing? Think again! Sensual BDSM is a space where exploration meets intimacy and pleasure is built on trust, communication and gentle sensation play. Sensual Play involves a gentle awakening of the senses, using a range of materials and tools that inspire a variety of physical sensations. If you’re new to soft BDSM or simply looking for ways to deepen your bond with your partner, soft BDSM can be a great place to start! Sensual BDSM is designed for those who want to bring a spark of excitement or exploration without feeling overwhelmed or out of their comfort zone. It’s also perfect for those who are ready to explore more than just the physical elements of intimacy.
At LIT, we believe that the key to a deeply fulfilling relationship lies in finding that “Yes” together. Not just any yes—the big, authentic “Yes” that’s rooted in genuine desire and trust. Sensual BDSM and sensual play are more than just activities; they’re tools that open the door to connection, growth, and a richer, more exciting intimacy. So, what is missing? Research shows that, for women (and often men too!), the body often needs around 45 minutes of relaxation and arousal to fully prepare for intimate connection. Sensual play, especially when it begins without the pressure of immediate sex, creates a safe, calming environment where both partners can explore without rushing. Nervous system regulation—relaxing and grounding the body—plays a crucial role in readiness for deeper intimacy. Our sensation play tools—like feather ticklers, soft mitts, satin sashes, and gentle scratchers—do more than just stimulate the body. They activate the release of powerful neurotransmitters and hormones, like oxytocin, serotonin, and dopamine, creating a feeling of safety, excitement, and attachment that makes true intimacy possible. And that’s why Sensual BDSM is where it’s at! Develop deeper levels of trust Explore intimacy in new, exciting ways Feel sensations in your body you never have before! Sensual Play provides an opportunity to: Known as the “cuddle hormone,” oxytocin plays a crucial role in creating feelings of closeness and trust. Every time we experience safe, loving touch, our brains release oxytocin, which helps lower stress levels and increases our sense of attachment to our partner. This bond-building chemical is key for women in particular, as it creates a sense of safety and emotional readiness for intimacy. Dopamine is our brain’s reward chemical, associated with feelings of pleasure and excitement. When we experience something novel or stimulating, like using a new sensation tool or exploring touch in a different way, dopamine levels rise. This neurotransmitter is responsible for the thrill and pleasure we feel when exploring sensory play, making each moment of intimacy feel fresh and exciting. Serotonin, another neurotransmitter released through touch, helps regulate mood and creates a sense of calm and well- being. By incorporating gentle, non-sexual touch before intimacy, you’re setting a foundation for a positive, relaxing experience. Serotonin also helps reduce feelings of anxiety, which is essential in letting go and becoming fully present with your partner. I’m sure you had no idea that getting freaky was so nerdy!
Where should you start on your soft BDSM journey? Download our FREE SPARK Playbook Take it up a few notches and shop Lit Sensation Tools Fluff Daddy creates inexplicable full-body melting Sweet Sub Mitten might cause uncontrollable moaning. Chain Reaction will give you that sweet chill factor Whip Whip Hooray will make you gasp with delight Claws of Attraction causes purring in ecstacy
Our Framework For Deepening Intimacy with Soft BDSM
*Download the free e-book for even more for the tools and techniques to bring to your SPARK to life! Yes! I Want More Intimacy! At the heart of all these elements is the SPARK - the “Yes” - where we feel lit up, deeply fulfilled, and alive with joy in relationship! Sensual Touch. By engaging in sensual play, couples can create a deeper physical and emotional bond. Using various sensation tools and touch, they create an environment where both partners feel cherished, desired, and engaged on multiple levels. Presence. Being truly present means showing up authentically, intentionally, and focusing fully on your partner. This kind of engagement shows your partner how much they are valued, loved, and cared for and deepens your connection immensely. Affirmation. Deepening trust and safety through witnessing your partner’s value, qualities, and contributions to the relationship with positive, loving words. Doing this, couples build a sense of security and validation that strengthens the bond between them. Reverence. Creating sacred space and spacious time for honoring and worshiping our partner through heart-felt touch, words, and affection. Recognizing and honoring their worth with genuine respect and admiration. Truly revering each other. Kink. Embracing open-mindedness, curiosity, and playfulness, couples can explore new dimensions of intimacy. It's about playing with edges in a consensual manner, which can lead to deeper pleasure, and a more fulfilling and dynamic relationship.